Have you ever felt like your self-care comes at the expense of someone else? I have. Self-sacrifice was basically how my family showed love. It gave me the implicit message that if I put myself and my needs at the fore, someone would get hurt. Without self-care, life can get really confusing. Many roots of our pain and suffering are not within our conscious awareness. We feel the end-result of the discomfort, stress, or misery. Those feelings are so LOUD that we can't tune in